Yea, me too.
So let me start with this. Pseudo's Mom has been sick all week. She lives with him, and he is her part-time caregiver. Part-time meaning, when he's not at work. He has other family, but they are too selfish to let him have a day off, or a social life. *grumble* And he's too much of a pushover to stand up for himself....
I think that's enough background story.
She's still sick, and considering her various conditions, he needed to stay home and keep an eye on her. That's why he cancelled.
He apologized. Assumed I was mad, and went back to his snippy, "I'm protecting myself," answers....
I told him I wasn't mad, to get some rest, enjoy the rest of his Valentine's Day, and I'll talk to him at work on Tuesday.
Funny, he didn't respond.... Think he still thinks I'm mad? After I sent the response, I realized how negative it could have come across, even though that was not my intention....
Please let me clarify, I was and am not angry. I am frustrated, a little sad, and disappointed. I cannot be angry for something he cannot control.
*sigh* Another opportunity gone, and I'm not sure how many more I have to give him....
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I feel for him.... not having the rest of the family helping even for a few hours on the weekends sucks. I can understand your postion on wanting to be with him and not getting to. It is hard not to get a bit angry about it.
Like you said it's not his fault and it's out of his control, his mother that is, not the family, he could try harder to stand up to the family.
But your getting let down and of course like any human your going to get upset, and even if you try not to, your getting angry at the family, bottling up the anger is only going to come out in one way, directed his way. You handled it well, but it sounds like he is aware of what this is doing to his relationships and that might be why he can be stand offish at times.
I really do feel for him, how many parents now days have a kid(s) that would dedicate thier lives and time to taking care of them. I can't even imagine the pain she is in seeing him giving up so much for her. When all parents want for their kids is to have life, not spend their days and nights taking care of them. Those of us with healthy parents are lucky.
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